Urgency

I just read book called Notes Left Behind, about a family's attempt to fight their 6 year old daughter's rare form of cancer. The author, Keith Desserich, still writes notes on his blog, http://blog.notesleftbehind.com ,although Elena lost her fight with the horrible disease. He continues to write about life without Elena now and with their youngest daughter, Gracie. HIs post today was on Urgency. During the times when Elena was healthy, the family packed as much living as they could, into the time that they had because they DID NOT KNOW how much time they had.
I guess what I am trying to say is that we act differently during a crisis. We need to channel that urgency into our "regular" lives, if they actually do get back to normal. I get frustrated sometimes because everything has gone so much back to normal , that it almost seems like the 4 month hell we went through did not happen. No one apologized for our "inconvenience". Everyone at court and at CPS acted like it was just another day while the life of our family hung by a thread for 117 days. We didn't know what would happen to us. Only the Judge seemed , well not apologetic. but sympathetic at the end of the hearing but what else could he do: he gave us the happy ending we needed.
I try to make my family appreciate the time we now have together. it's not an easy thing to do because I live with a 7 year old who would rather be on a playdate with ANY of her friends than actually with mom and dad, and a husband who lives in his work. Granted , he has gotten much better, but I still think he doesn't really "treasure" what we have been given back. I guess most men don' think that way, exceptions to Mr. Desserich. But you would think after being forcibly separated from your family and home, you would do more to extract all the happiness you can with your family.
I thank God that all of our family members have our health and I pray that all the parents with children in peril, either from disease or wrongful separation receive the strength to bring their families through the dark times.